Letting Go and Moving On – Weekend Mindfulness and Meditation Retreat in Kent – 7th to 9th September 2018

‘Letting go and moving’ on is a residential mindfulness and meditation retreat, held in Aylesford in the beautiful Kent countryside on Friday 7th to Sunday 9th September 2018.

The past has no power over the present moment other than the power you give it.

It can sometimes feel that our life choices disappear. Life becomes like a roller-coaster ride hurtling towards an uncertain future and all we can do is either hang on or try to enjoy the ride. Our choices become hidden by the hectic pace of life and the decisions we make become damage-limitation exercises and there is no sense of progress. The constantly accelerating pace of change leaves us off-balance and our inner wisdom becomes obscured.

We all know the wisdom that emerges from a still, calm and silent mind. It is crystal clear in its clarity and rooted in deep insights into our lives that aren’t available during our daily grind.

This retreat is designed to provide us with the space we need to reconnect with our inner wisdom. On Saturday, we will uncover and clear the obstacles to your personal journey. We will clear our minds, relax, your inner wisdom can then arise and guide you to the best possible outcome.

I keep watching the one stone over which the stream is singing. What did that stone accept or let go of to be given the privilege of settling just below the surface, so the entire stream could pass thinly, unveiling its shimmer and disclosing its song? How did it know not to rise too far or sink too low? What must we accept or let go of, so that life can reveal its song through us? How do we not rise too far or sink too low? How do we stay immersed in the glorious thick of it?” Mark Nepo from 'The Wooden Bridge'

Our Approach

The Focus of our approach is to learn and use the mindfulness and meditation tools that we practice as part of our structured training courses, classes, workshops and retreats. All meditators, at some point, encounter the layers of emotion that expose our past experiences, beliefs and future expectations. In this retreat, we will use the meditation tools that are best suited to helping us to work with this important part of our experience. We will learn how we can use Acceptance, Emotional Release, Gratitude Practices and Impermanence Practices to process our inner experience and peel back each layer of resistance that is so unhelpful to our happiness.

Friday Afternoon/Evening

Arrival from 1 pm, drop off your bags and meet up with the group or enjoy the buildings and the grounds
Sunset meditation – outside, or inside, if it rains

Saturday – Letting Go

Finding your Inner Stillness
We will begin the day with mindfulness meditations designed to bring us to a place of still, silent calmness and tranquillity.

Mapping the Landscape of the Mind
We need a map because we need to get from where we are, to where we need to be. Trial and error wastes time and can create difficulty. Others have already gone those ways, so you don’t need to follow them to the same dead ends and diversions. We want to be familiar and comfortable with the landscape of our minds to navigate it safely and helpfully.
From here, we can identify the obstacles. We can learn what is intervening in our happiness and develop a strategy to overcome it. We will learn the mindfulness meditations that allow us to see inwardly so our inner experience becomes clear.

Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable
Appreciation, forgiveness, compassion, self-compassion, gratitude, acceptance and impermanence. These are the tools that we use to learn how to sit with and release the inevitable discomfort of living our artificial lives. We will learn and practice meditations that allow us to guide our inner experience of those things that bring us the most suffering so we can accept and manage our pain and discomfort when it arises.

Releasing uncomfortable emotions
To get past our current obstacles, whatever they are, we need to learn what they are there to teach us. We also need to learn how to process our emotions both for this session and also any future experiences. Emotional release is a collection of techniques that allow us to let go of our suffering as and when it arises. Some of these techniques are meditations and others are inner work. We will go through them in a structured way so you can add them to your toolkit.

Rebalancing our minds and bodies
Having done our work, we need to put away our tools and get back to an open, relaxed and balanced state at the end of the day. Again, the focus is on returning to the calm, silent stillness that can be found within us through mindfulness meditation.

Sunday – Moving On

The morning will have a number of activities designed to help us to process the learnings from the day before including mindful listening.

The afternoon will have activities designed to help us find clarity.
Mindful walk (weather permitting) in the 40 acres of grounds (options for high and low energy folks).
A Qi Gong session led by Graham
A silent tea
Meditation practices designed to help us discover our inner wisdom and also to then transition back into our busy lives.

The Venue

You can step out of your daily grind and into a beautiful training space to experience a serene and inspiring escape from your busy life.

The Friars at Aylesford is a 13th century Pilgrim’s hostel. Pilgrims still stay here, as they have over the centuries, to rest on their journeys to Canterbury and beyond.

Set in the heart of Kent, The Friars – Aylesford Priory – is an ancient religious house of the Order of Carmelites dating back to the 13th Century. Over the centuries and now today The Friars has become for thousands of visitors: a place of peace, a centre of welcome, a venue for gathering and a work of art.

The images below include the 13th century Pilgrim’s Hall where we will eat our meals, some photos of the buildings and grounds, the spartan but immaculately clean accommodation and various other photos.

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Friday 7th September – Arrival

Arrival and meet the other retreatants
Sunset Meditation inside or out (depending on the weather)

Saturday 8th September – Letting Go

Finding your Inner Stillness How our modern perspective fails us
Mapping the Landscape of the Mind What is it and how do we find it?
Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable The key tools for modern life
Emotional Release Releasing uncomfortable emotions
Rebalancing our minds and bodies Finding balance after our inner journey

Sunday 9th September – Moving On

Moving On Clearing the mind
Mindful Listening group activity
Clarity Meditation
Qi Gong with Graham Warren
Mindful Walk within the 40 acres of grounds

Pricing and Payment

Cost for the Day
All-inclusive price including refreshments and all activities – £250

Date and Times

Date and Times
Date: Friday 7th September from 1 pm to Sunday 9th September 4 pm.

Book now. We have limited spaces.
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What’s happening to Britain at the Moment?

A few days ago a student of mine, who I have been privileged to know for a few years now, sent me a question. I thought it might be useful to publish his question and my response.

“What’s happening to Britain at the moment Robert? So much division and hate – all perpetuated by the media. They seem to wallow in it.”

It’s fear. As Yoda so correctly pointed out… “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.”
As 21st century humans, our only real fear is the fear of isolation. the fear that arises when we feel we are separate. It’s black and white. You’re either connected to all things or you’re separated from all things. When you feel separate, you try to find groups where you don’t feel separate then of course you’re connected to that group and then the outsiders are separate so you fear them. If you look at terrorism and the response to it, it’s all about us and them. Fear of outsiders. Nothing sells news like fear. As they say in the news media, “If it bleeds, it leads”.

But does it have to be so sad?

Fear is the state of the human mind, almost universally. However, suffering has a purpose. The purpose of suffering is to expose whatever it is we believe that doesn’t align with reality and this is designed to be uncomfortable to make us to do something about it. The reality is that everything and everyone is connected. In areas like quantum physics and our other explorations of the universe, science is learning this on a daily basis. Though of course science is in denial and consistently uses terms like ‘spooky’. That word gets used more and more for very good reason. Einstein coined it to explain a connection between particles that was unexplained. He called it ’spooky’ action at a distance. (It’s still unexplained by the way). Suffering arises because either you, or someone else feels separate. The greater the sense of separation, the greater the suffering. You only have to look at the private lives of the terrorists to see how they feel separate and different. This is all there to guide us. It’s a lesson to us, you and me. Of course the media couldn’t get this in a million years because they all absolutely believe the very same narrative that we are all separate. Just billiard balls in the table of life bumping into each other in a meaningless random cosmic game. So what to do? Connect. Smile at one more person today than you would have yesterday. Smile at one more person that looks different to you, that you can’t understand or that you might feel some aversion towards or doubt about or even who makes you uncomfortable. This is how we change this sad world my friend, one smile at a time 🙂 🙏

This week at Bromley Mindfulness – 14th May to 21st May

As we have such a busy week I thought I would send out a bulletin

Today – 14th of May at St Marks – Introduction to Mindfulness


Due to the church room being used as a polling station on the 7th May the Introduction to Mindfulness session will be today. This consists on a talk on mindfulness for newcomers of about 15 minutes and the basic meditations so feel free to attend if you are a regular meditator and just want to experience the power of group meditation.

Saturday the 16th May at 11am – Mindfulness in Beckenham


Starting this Saturday the 16th of May, we shall have another regular mindfulness meditation meetup at venue28, 28 Beckenham Road, BR3 4LS, just by the entrance to Beckenham Spa.

Get your weekend off to a calm and relaxing start and leave the stresses of the week behind with an hour of guided meditation in Beckenham on Saturday mornings.

Initially, I shall teach a combination of mindfulness and gratitude meditations. We are a non-religious meet up but the practices are useful for both religious and secular people.

Venue28 which is an immaculate new events space. We have a quiet and airy room with plenty of natural light.

The venue will provide chairs but there is no disabled access to this room which is on the mezzanine floor.

Please arrive a few minutes early so we are not interrupted during the meditations.

If you’re in Beckenham, find details and RSVP here:


If you’re in Bromley, find details and RSVP here:


This Sunday (17th) is the  St Christopher’s Fun Walk


You will need to register directly with St Christopher’s though please also RSVP so we can get together at some point.


RSVP and catch up with the other members here:


We are at Chantry Studios at lunchtime on Tuesday the 19th as usual


If you work in or near the City, on Thursday, 21st May at City of London Library, I am doing a talk – Learn Emotional Resilience with Mindfulness – Learn how to bounce back from the stress of modern life


12:30, City of London Library in the Barbican centre

2nd floor, Silk Street, EC2Y 8DS

The talk is free but please book with Barbican to ensure a place

You can RSVP on either of our meetup sites:



 The session at St Marks on Thursday the 21st will be the usual mindfulness meditation


 Any questions about any of the events, feel free to either ask me directly or on the event page on meetup.com






For News for the month visit:

Bromley Mindfulness March News