One Day Forgiveness and Compassion Retreat May 2018

Letting Go and Moving on

A one day Retreat at The Mansion in Beckenham

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The Day Retreat

The day is an opportunity for healing and growth

Robert will guide and support you on a day of self-enquiry where you will learn to gently and cautiously discover, identify and question the beliefs, thoughts and fears that are the root cause of all of our suffering. It’s a way to understand what’s hurting you, to explore the cause and source of your suffering with clarity and focus.

Each topic will be supported with appropriate meditations that will enable you to strengthen your practices and assist you in your inner journey.

The process consists of acknowledging, accepting, releasing and moving on to a place of inner peace and happiness.

The day retreat at the beginning of August was wonderfully uplifting and my mind was almost still for 3 days after!
(The inner chatter of my mind subsided markably)”

Click here to book  
Robert
Robert set up Bromley Mindfulness in 2013. Since then he has developed the intensive Mindfulness-based Resilience course from which over three hundred students of mindfulness have graduated. Each week Robert teaches numerous students at a number of venues in Bromley and at a variety of organisations from local charities to global household names.

Mindfulness-Based Resilience offers a different way of being, a way of experiencing life from the perspective of the present moment rather than from the past, the future or an oppressive life-situation. Using the tools of Mindfulness-Based Resilience, we can learn to leave our pain out of our present moment and find the new perspective that really does lead to happiness.

Activities
The day will be a combination of activities and meditations designed to help retreatants to release the burden of memories and fears and doubts that we all carry courtesy of our complex artificial and unnatural lives.

The Venue

You can step out of your daily grind and into our beautiful training space to experience a serene and inspiring escape from your busy life.

The day-retreat will be run in the sedate 18th century Georgian Drawing Room of the Grade II listed Beckenham Place Mansion which has a panoramic view of 237 acres of carefully tended gardens, lawns and flowers and woodland.The Mansion is a decorate and graceful space that sits in natural stillness, offering an inspiring and ideal place to practice mindfulness and meditation without distraction. You will feel better, happier and more relaxed from visiting our pleasant retreat designed to bring calm, comfort and quiet.

Beckenham Place Park is being recovered for the wider community with £4.9M of Lottery funding. We are fortunate to have access to such a perfect location which enables a connection to the stillness and serenity of nature into our meditation experience in such a graceful way.We are surrounded by transport links with four stations less than twenty minutes walk away, many buses and free parking directly outside the building. See below for details.A light lunch is included. The Mansion also has a cafe which is the social centre of our community.

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Agenda

Morning

Start at 11am
Compassion How can we practice it?
Self-Compassion Selfless Selfishness
Acceptance Can we really accept difficulties
Love How to love without being hurt
Lunch About 1 pm
Mindfulness The Foundation of Recovery

Afternoon

Gratitude How our modern perspective fails us
Inner Peace What is it and how do we find it?
Afternoon Tea
Forgiveness How we can release our baggage
The Truth How to discover our own personal truth
 Finish  16:30 pm


Day Retreat – Pricing and Payment

Cost for the Day
Day session including a light lunch and refreshments – £75


Day Retreat – Date and Times

Date and Times
Date: Sunday May 13.
Please arrive before 11am.
Lunch: 1 pm
Finish at 4:30 pm

Book your place now to avoid disappointment
Click here to book

One Day Mindfulness and Meditation Retreat Sunday June 24

Learn to meditate or learn to deepen your meditation practice.

By attending our meditation retreat, you will learn the skills that will help you to build a sustainable and helpful meditation practice. Our meditation training will help you to build your repertoire of meditations. You will learn how and why they work, which meditations will give you what you need. This will help you to bring mindfulness, calmness, relaxation and peace of mind to your day.

The focus of the retreat is meditation. Robert will take you on a journey from the basic practices of mindfulness meditation, through intermediate techniques that exercise our perception and through to advanced meditation in a variety of styles while also including his personally devised meditations such as The Presence Meditation, The Four Tens Meditation, The De-Stress Meditation and The Candle and the Breath meditation featured by Ruby Wax.

Join us for our first this year’s first One Day Meditation Retreat on Sunday, June 24, 11 am – 4.30 pm at The Mansion at Beckenham Place Park.

This day-long session will see you benefit from feeling more relaxed and less stressed and anxious, happier and empowered. You will also leave with tools and techniques you can practice and benefit from in your own time.

This intensive training session for the mind will leave you feeling refreshed, happier and more balanced.

The day retreat at the beginning of August was wonderfully uplifting and my mind was almost still for 3 days after!
(The inner chatter of my mind subsided markedly)”

What new meditation skills will you leave with?
By attending this meditation retreat, you will benefit from five hours of carefully selected mood-boosting, mindfulness relaxation and gratitude meditations accompanied by practical, expert guidance.

Location
The Meditation Day Retreat will be held at:
The Mansion, Beckenham Place Park, Beckenham BR3 1SY


Mindfulness Day Retreat – Pricing and Payment

Cost for the Day
Day session including a light lunch and refreshments – £85


Mindfulness Day Retreat – Date and Times

Date and Times
Date: Sunday June 24.
Please arrive before 11 am.
Lunch: 1pm
Finish at 4:30pm

Book your place now to avoid disappointment
Click here to book

One Day Workshop Dealing with Difficult People March 25 2018

Dealing with difficult people with mindfulness and compassion

For many of us, life can be frantic. At work, our colleagues, and ourselves, are often struggling to cope with high workloads and tight deadlines. Private lives have also become infinitely more complex and the ordinary challenges of life such as family, neighbours and friends can also be challenging or demanding. Together, this can all seem overwhelming.

How we manage our interactions with other people makes the difference between discord and harmony. Whatever happens in our lives, building constructive and positive relationships is a key element of our happiness and success.
Contact me to book our Dealing with Difficult People with Mindfulness and Compassion workshop on Sunday the 25th of March.

The content of the workshop will be:

  • The psychology of difficult people
  • Learning to manage our stress when meeting difficult people
  • Learning how to connect with difficult people and understanding if we can’t
  • Managing any anxiety we have about future encounters with difficult people
  • Coping with fallout from confrontations
  • Learn how to release our conditioned responses to having our buttons pressed
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Location

The Drawing Room in The Mansion,  Beckenham Place Park, off of Beckenham Hill Road, BR3 1SY.

Transport

There is free parking directly outside The Mansion.
The Mansion is situated between four stations:

  • Beckenham Hill (ten minute walk)
  • Beckenham Junction (fifteen minute walk)
  • Ravensbourne (twenty minutes walk, almost all of which is through the park)
  • New Beckenham (twenty minutes walk)

The 54 bus passes the Mansion and numerous bus routes pass nearby.
Tramlink trams stop at Beckenham Junction which is a fifteen minute walk.

Transport Links

Times from the origin station to the Mansion.

Location Route Time
Bromley South Beckenham Hill 20 minutes
Orpington Beckenham Junction 30 minutes
Lewisham Station Beckenham Hill Road Stop W 35 minutes
Brixton Beckenham Junction 30 minutes
East Croydon Beckenham Junction 35 minutes
Victoria Beckenham Junction 35 minutes
Blackfriars Beckenham Hill 35 minutes
Hayes New Beckenham 30 minutes
London Bridge Beckenham Junction 50 minutes


Dealing with Difficult People Workshop – Pricing and Payment

Cost for the Day
Day session including a light lunch and refreshments – £75


Dealing with Difficult People Workshop

– Date and Times

Date and Times
Date: Sunday 25th March.
Please arrive before 11am.
Lunch: 1pm
Finish at 4:30pm

Book your place now to avoid disappointment
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One Day Meditation Retreat Sunday March 4 2018

Meditation session at the Connection Retreat in March 2018

 

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Learn to meditate or learn to deepen your meditation practice.

By attending our meditation retreat, you will learn the skills that will help you to build a sustainable and helpful meditation practice. Our meditation training will help you to build your repertoire of meditations. You will learn how and why they work, which meditations will give you what you need. This will help you to bring mindfulness, calmness, relaxation and peace of mind to your day.

The focus of the retreat is meditation. Robert will take you on a journey from the basic practices of mindfulness meditation, through intermediate techniques that exercise our perception and through to advanced meditation in a variety of styles while also including his personally devised meditations such as The Presence Meditation, The 10×10 Meditation, De-Stress Meditation and The Candle and the Breath meditation featured by Ruby Wax.

Join us for our first this year’s first One Day Meditation Retreat on Sunday 4th March, 11.00am – 4.30pm at The Mansion at Beckenham Place Park

This day long session will see you benefiting from feeling more relaxed and less stressed and anxious, happier and empowered. You will also leave with tools and techniques you can practice and benefit from in your own time.

This intensive training session for the mind will leave you feeling refreshed, happier and more balanced.

The day retreat at the beginning of August was wonderfully uplifting and my mind was almost still for 3 days after!
(The inner chatter of my mind subsided markably)”

What new meditation skills will you leave with?
By attending this meditation retreat, you will benefit from five hours worth of carefully selected mood boosting, mindfulness relaxation and gratitude meditations with practical guidance.

Location
The Meditation Day Retreat will be held at:
The Mansion, Beckenham Place Park, Beckenham BR3 1SY


Mindfulness Day Retreat – Pricing and Payment

Cost for the Day
Day session including a light lunch and refreshments – £85


Mindfulness Day Retreat – Date and Times

Date and Times
Date: Sunday 4th March.
Please arrive before 11am.
Lunch: 1pm
Finish at 4:30pm

Book your place now to avoid disappointment
Click here to book

Mindfulness Training in January and February 2018

It’s time to rediscover that elusive Peace of Mind

Remember that peaceful sense of calmness where everything just seems right with the world, and nothing needs to be done to change it?

Come to our mindfulness training and reconnect with that feeling.

Mindfulness for Busy People Day Retreat

For some, regularly attending an evening mindfulness course over many weeks can seem like a mountain to climb.
If you are one of those ultra-busy people, we have developed an immersive training session just for you.
On Sunday February 4th we are running a One-Day Mindfulness Training Retreat

Step out of your daily grind and into our beautiful training space to experience a serene and inspiring escape from your busy life. Our day retreat is held in the sedate 18th century rooms of the Grade II listed Beckenham Place Mansion with a panoramic view of 237 acres of carefully tended gardens, lawns and flowers.

The Mansion is a calming and graceful space that sits in natural stillness, offering an inspiring space to learn without distraction. You will feel better, happier and more relaxed from visiting our pleasant retreat designed to bring calm, comfort and quiet.

 

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Find Out More

January 6-week Courses

Join our 6-week mindfulness courses to learn mindfulness in a small group with expert guidance in an ideal training location.
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Learn about our courses

Our gentlest introduction to mindfulness and meditation

Come along to one of our regular mindfulness meditation sessions run in and around Bromley and Beckenham each week.
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Learn about our classes

Mindfulness Training in Autumn and Winter 2017

It’s time to rediscover that elusive Peace of Mind

Remember that peaceful sense of calmness where everything just seems right with the world, and nothing needs to be done to change it?

Come to our mindfulness training and reconnect with that feeling.

The Truth About You Day Retreat

For some, regularly attending an evening mindfulness course over many weeks can seem like a mountain to climb.
If you are one of those ultra-busy people, we have developed an immersive training session just for you.
On Sunday October 8th we are running a One-Day Training Retreat

Step out of your daily grind and into our beautiful training space to experience a serene and inspiring escape from your busy life. Our day retreat is held in the sedate 18th century rooms of the Grade II listed Beckenham Place Mansion with a panoramic view of 237 acres of carefully tended gardens, lawns and flowers.

The Mansion is a calming and graceful space that sits in natural stillness, offering an inspiring space to learn without distraction. You will feel better, happier and more relaxed from visiting our pleasant retreat designed to bring calm, comfort and quiet.

 

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Find Out More

November 6-week Courses

Join our 6-week mindfulness courses to learn mindfulness in a small group with expert guidance in an ideal training location.
Robert at CMS2_680x510
Learn about our courses

Our gentlest introduction to mindfulness and meditation

Come along to one of our regular mindfulness meditation sessions run in and around Bromley and Beckenham each week.
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Learn about our classes

The Truth About You – Day Retreat in Beckenham – Sunday October 8th 2017

The Truth About You

“You need to talk about you, and we all need to talk about us.”
In the 21st-century, life can feel like an infinite loop.
Get up, go to work, come home, watch the TV, go to bed, party at weekends.
Then there is the infinite loop of the mind.
Juggling infinite task, infinite lists of infinite tasks, going over past events, constantly rehearsing what to say, what to do and the endless judging: is this right?, is this wrong?, is this fair, is this unfair?, is this good?, is this bad?, will I won’t I? should I? would I? could I?
It is as if every waking moment is captured by the contents of our minds.
On this retreat, we will explore the nature of the mind and the content of the mind using powerful tools that can help us to find calmness and happiness in our otherwise hectic lives.

Understanding our minds

Science tells us that we spend half our waking lives in our own minds: thinking, remembering, imagining, shuffling the infinite task lists and worrying how it will ever get done. And yet, there is no public dialogue about our inner dialogue. There’s nothing in literature or in the media about that 50% of our waking lives.
Where are our lessons at school or at home about managing our minds? As a society we are constantly promoting a culture to nurture our physical body, but the health of our mind has never been on the social agenda unless we stop functioning when it is unhelpfully referred to as mental illness with all of the attendant stigma and baggage. The medical community, our National Health Service, are fully aware of the impact the mind has over our lives. Stress related illness and disease is on the rise, costing us billions.

Busy Mind

The Inner Voice – The Final Taboo

Michelle and Robert are determined to break the silence about this final social taboo, which is the contents of our own minds. We need to get the conversation into the public domain. With an abundance of self help books on the market, titles stretching from religion to science for guidance and support, it is often confusing to know where to begin. Leaving the spiritual or scientific jargon and dogma behind, Michelle and Robert will be discussing our minds, and the meditative tools we can use to explore them, in simple and useful ways that are accessible to everyone.

When is it?

The conversation about the inner conversation starts on Sunday October the 8th.

Where is it?

You can step out of your daily grind and into our beautiful training space to experience a serene and inspiring escape from your busy life.

The workshop will be run in the sedate 18th century Georgian Drawing Room of the Grade II listed Beckenham Place Mansion which has a panoramic view of 237 acres of carefully tended gardens, lawns and flowers and woodland. The Mansion is a decorate and graceful space that sits in natural stillness, offering an inspiring and ideal place to practice mindfulness and meditation without distraction. You will feel better, happier, and more relaxed, from visiting our pleasant retreat, designed to bring calm, comfort and quiet.

Beckenham Place Park has been recovered for the wider community with £4.9M of Lottery funding. We are fortunate to have access to such a perfect location which enables a connection to the stillness and serenity of nature into our meditation experience in such a graceful way. We are surrounded by transport links with four stations less than twenty minutes walk away, many buses and free parking directly outside the building. See below for details. A light lunch is included. The Mansion also has a cafe which is the social centre of our community.

Pricing

Fees
£75 – Includes a light lunch and refreshments. Contact us for details.

Click here to book

Who is it for?

This isn’t a therapeutic group or a mental health intervention. This is for people with healthy and busy minds that want to learn the tools to use, and the insight they need, to explore their own inner experience in a useful way with practical day-to-day benefits. Knowledge and understanding are the first steps on the most important journey of our lives, the journey to understanding our own minds.

Agenda

Morning

Introduction – 11am
Michelle Neverending Story – the narration of you
Robert Who’s in charge? – an insight into our inner experience
Lunch About 1pm

Afternoon

Michelle Making Sense of it all
Robert Who am I? – what is the self?
Afternoon Tea
Michelle How our body talks to us – taking a look at intuition and trust
Robert Communication – what is it really?
Feel free to arrive between 10 and 11 as the cafe is open downstairs. We will be in the Drawing Room from 11am.

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Mindfulness Training in August and September 2017

It’s time to rediscover that elusive Peace of Mind

Remember that peaceful sense of calmness where everything just seems right with the world, and nothing needs to be done to change it?

Come to our mindfulness training and reconnect with that feeling.

Mindfulness for Busy People Day Retreat

For some, regularly attending an evening mindfulness course over many weeks can seem like a mountain to climb.
If you are one of those ultra-busy people, we have developed an immersive training session just for you.
On Sunday August 20 we are running a One-Day Mindfulness Training Retreat for busy people
at The Mansion in Beckenham Place Park.

Step out of your daily grind and into our beautiful training space to experience a serene and inspiring escape from your busy life. Our day retreat is held in the sedate 18th century rooms of the Grade II listed Beckenham Place Mansion with a panoramic view of 237 acres of carefully tended gardens, lawns and flowers.

The Mansion is a calming and graceful space that sits in natural stillness, offering an inspiring space to learn without distraction. You will feel better, happier and more relaxed from visiting our pleasant retreat designed to bring calm, comfort and quiet.

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Get Peace of Mind on our day retreat

September 6-week Courses

Join our 6-week mindfulness courses to learn mindfulness in a small group with expert guidance in an ideal training location.
Robert at CMS2_680x510
Learn about our courses

Our gentlest introduction to mindfulness and meditation

Come along to one of our regular mindfulness meditation sessions run in and around Bromley and Beckenham each week.
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Learn about our classes

Mindfulness for Busy People One Day Intensive Workshop – Beckenham August 20th 2017

The focus is on practical experience backed up deeply with the information that gives you the why of mindfulness and not just the what.

The Venue

You can step out of your daily grind and into our beautiful training space to experience a serene and inspiring escape from your busy life.

The workshop will be run in the sedate 18th century Georgian Drawing Room of the Grade II listed Beckenham Place Mansion which has a panoramic view of 237 acres of carefully tended gardens, lawns and flowers and woodland.The Mansion is a decorate and graceful space that sits in natural stillness, offering an inspiring and ideal place to practice mindfulness and meditation without distraction. You will feel better, happier and more relaxed from visiting our pleasant retreat designed to bring calm, comfort and quiet.

Beckenham Place Park is being recovered for the wider community with £4.9M of Lottery funding. We are fortunate to have access to such a perfect location which enables a connection to the stillness and serenity of nature into our meditation experience in such a graceful way.The Mansion is aWe are surrounded by transport links with four stations less than twenty minutes walk away, many buses and free parking directly outside the building. See below for details.A light lunch is included. The Mansion also has a cafe which is the social centre of our community.

Pricing

Fees
£75
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Content

The workshop introduces the most effective mindfulness techniques. The workshop is packed with with real life examples. There is personal guidance and support combined with the latest tools and techniques. The workshop will equip you with the tools and techniques you need to learn mindfulness and resilience.

You’ll leave the day with skills to:

  • Reduce negative thoughts and emotions
  • Increase your wellbeing and happiness
  • Reduce the impact of difficult experiences

What you will get from the workshop

  • Intensive in-person multi-channel training
  • Key meditation practices
  • Supporting handouts for the day
  • Online video clips
  • Guided online meditation MP3s
  • Supported homework for a month after the workshop
  • E-book recommendations, scientific papers, news articles, literature and references
  • A springboard for your personal development or further study
  • Membership of the Bromley Mindfulness student community with regular meditation classes, retreats, workshops and social events
  • One month’s telephone, text or email support
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Agenda – Sunday 20th August 2017

Arrive at any point before 11 as the cafe is open downstairs. We will be in the Drawing Room from 11am.

Time Activity
11:00 Introduction
11:10 Emotional Intelligence
12:00 Stress, Anxiety and Worry
12:30 Mindfulness
13:00 Lunch – a light lunch with vegetarian options is available
14:00 Peace of Mind and Relaxation
15:15 Tea
15:30 Integrating Mindfulness and Meditation into your busy life
16:30 Finish
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About The Workshop

About Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a natural trait. Anyone can learn the state of mind that is mindfulness. You will learn to step into the present moment and get the very best from it. Our mindfulness training helps you to observe your thoughts, feelings and behaviour without being overwhelmed. You can unlearn unhelpful attachment and judgement.

The History of Mindfulness

Mindfulness training is an ancient collection of tools and techniques taught in a modern way. Thousands of scientific studies have produced evidence of reductions in stress and anxiety from meditation and mindfulness.

How Mindfulness is being used

Global organisations use mindfulness to advance themselves. Examples are: the NHS, Google, Intel, Bank of America, as well as sportsmen, athletes, the US military and many others.

What changes with Mindfulness?

We learn to step back from compulsive or repetitive thoughts and feelings. We learn to observe our surroundings with a sense of connection that brings fulfilment. These are simple yet powerful techniques. They can change how we think, feel and act in the face of the challenges of everyday life.

Who can benefit?

Our workshops are not just for stress reduction.
For high-achievers, our tools and techniques can accelerate your personal development. Everyone leaves with new skills and for some, the experience can be transformational.

About Resilence

Resilience is learning to cope with adversity in a way that helps us cope with future adversity. Resilience can be learned and there are a number of techniques that allow us to do so. We focus on these techniques during the workshop.

Dealing with stressful experiences

We teach tried and tested stress management techniques that you can use in the moment when you are expecting or experiencing stress. We teach techniques to deal with the aftermath and also how to return to a happy and balanced state of mind.

Finding calmness in the turmoil

By attending our mindfulness workshop, you will learn how to manage high stress situations. You will learn to recognise and manage the after-effects. You can find that deep well of calm that only seems to be available to a few.

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Retreats

Bromley Mindfulness runs regular retreats in and around Bromley, Kent and London. Our retreats are all themed on subjects associated with mindfulness and meditation. Check our retreat schedule by clicking the button below.

Visit our site regularly to discover the latest events or contact me for details or keep up with our events on our facebook events page.

One Day Forgiveness and Compassion Retreat July 2017

Letting Go and Moving on

A one day Retreat at The Seeker’s Trust in Kent

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Agenda

Morning

Start at 11am
Forgiveness
Michelle The Butterfly Effect
Robert The Gaia Process
Lunch About 1pm
Mindful Walk In the Seeker’s Trust Grounds (weather permitting)

Afternoon

Compassion
Michelle The Phoenix Effect
Robert The kevlar vest for the 21st century
Afternoon Tea
Self-Compassion
Robert and Michelle Selfless Selfishness

The Day Retreat

The day is an opportunity for healing and growth

Michelle and Robert will guide and support you on a day of self-enquiry where you will learn to gently and cautiously discover, identify and question the beliefs, thoughts and fears that are the root cause of all of our suffering. It’s a way to understand what’s hurting you, to explore the the cause and source of your suffering with clarity and focus.

The process consists of acknowledging, accepting, releasing and moving on to a place of greater calmness and happiness.

The day retreat at the beginning of August was wonderfully uplifting and my mind was almost still for 3 days after!
(The inner chatter of my mind subsided markably)”

Click here to book

 

Michelle
Michelle has lived in or around London all of her life and knows first hand how stressful it can be. She has had careers in fashion, advertising and the media as well as running a shop, an interiors company and also has two kids – It’s exhausting just thinking about it.Michelle has experience of how our modern day life brings very high expectations, costs, time restraints and stress.

Michelle teaches meditation, relaxation and offers holistic healing to women and families in Hither Green. Her focus is on sharing practices, exercises, ideas and research that can assist YOU in increasing your own ‘zest for life’.

Robert
Robert set up Bromley Mindfulness in 2013. Since then he has developed the intensive Mindfulness-based Resilience course from which nearly three hundred students of mindfulness have graduated since 2014.

Each week Robert teaches numerous students at a number of venues in Bromley and at a variety of organisations from local charities to global household names.

Mindfulness-Based Resilience offers a different way of being, a way of experiencing life from the perspective of the present moment rather than from the past, the future or an oppressive life-situation. Using the tools of Mindfulness-Based Resilience, we can learn to leave our pain out of our present moment and find the new perspective that really does lead to happiness.

Activities
The day will be a combination of activities and meditations designed to help retreatants to release the burden of memories and fears and doubts that we all carry courtesy of our complex artificial and unnatural lives.

Location
The Meditation Day Retreat will be held at The Seekers Trust near West Malling in Kent.

The full address is:
The Conference Centre, The Close, Addington Park, West Malling, Kent, ME19 5BL.


Day Retreat – Pricing and Payment

Cost for the Day
Day session including a light lunch and refreshments – £75


Day Retreat – Date and Times

Date and Times
Date: Sunday the 16th July.
Please arrive before 11am.
Lunch: 1pm
Finish at 4:30pm

Book your place now to avoid disappointment
Click here to book

One Day Meditation Retreat May 2017

Meditation session at the Connection Retreat in March

 

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Learn to meditate or learn to deepen your meditation practice.

By attending our meditation retreat, you will learn the skills that will help you to build a sustainable and helpful meditation practice. Our meditation training will help you to build your repertoire of meditations. You will learn how and why they work, which meditations will give you what you need. This will help you to bring mindfulness, calmness, relaxation and peace of mind to your day.

The focus of the retreat is meditation. Robert, Mike and Graham will take you on a journey from the basic practices of mindfulness meditation, through intermediate techniques that exercise our perception, activities like mindful walking and Qi and through to advanced meditation in a variety of styles while also including his personally devised meditations such as The Presence Meditation, The Candle and the Breath meditation that was recently featured on Ruby Wax’s site and the De-Stress Meditation.

There will also be an emailed handout of the practices so that you can review what you have learned.

Join us for our first One Day Meditation Retreat on Sunday 21st May, 11.00am – 4.30pm at The Seeker’s Trust, West Malling.

This day long session will see you benefiting from feeling more relaxed and less stressed and anxious, happier and empowered. You will also leave with tools and techniques you can practice and benefit from in your own time.

This intensive training session for the mind will leave you feeling refreshed, happier and more balanced.

The day retreat at the beginning of August was wonderfully uplifting and my mind was almost still for 3 days after!
(The inner chatter of my mind subsided markably)”

What new meditation skills will you leave with?
By attending this meditation retreat, you will benefit from five hours worth of carefully selected mood boosting, mindfulness relaxation and gratitude meditations with practical guidance.

Qigong
Graham Warren is a long-time and regular student at Bromley Mindfulness.
Graham has practiced Qigong for decades and has taught Qigong on a number of retreats run by Bromley Mindfulness which have proved very popular. Graham teaches Qigong in West Wickham every Wednesday at 7:30pm.
The venue is West Wickham New Church Hall, 142 High Street, West Wickham, BR4 0LZ.
There is a car park across the road in a rather hidden slip road by Carpet Right and there are many buses and trains to the area.
You can contact Graham on:
07711 733058
gwarren851@gmail.com

Meditative Walking
The day also incorporates ‘walking as a meditation’ within the The Seeker’s Trust’s  39 acres of grounds and gardens, a light lunch (menu available on request) and a range of non-alcoholic hot and cold drinks throughout the day.

To learn mindfulness in our lives, we need to transfer the experience from our meditation practices to our day-to-day experiences such as eating and walking. Mindful walking is a wonderful introduction to this. We can both do a mindful walk in the grounds and also visit the Seeker’s Trust’s famous healing tree.

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Location
The Meditation Day Retreat will be held at The Seekers Trust near West Malling in Kent.

The full address is:
The Conference Centre, The Close, Addington Park, West Malling, Kent, ME19 5BL.


Mindfulness Day Retreat – Pricing and Payment

Cost for the Day
Day session including a light lunch and refreshments – £75


Mindfulness Day Retreat – Date and Times

Date and Times
Date: Sunday the 21st May.
Please arrive before 11am.
Lunch: 1pm
Finish at 4:30pm

Book your place now to avoid disappointment
Click here to book

One Day Connection Retreat – Sunday 12 March – West Malling – Kent

12th March, 2017
11.00am – 4.30pm
The Seekers Trust, West Malling, Kent, ME19 5BL

A collaboration between Bromley Mindfulness and The Present Moment Project

“Each person you meet is a doorway into another world”

About the retreat

Our ability to build and maintain authentic and meaningful connections plays a key role in maintaining our health & wellbeing. However, our ability to connect can be diminished by the nature of our modern 21st Century lifestyles. When this happens, we can be left feeling isolated, anxious and low.
In this retreat, Robert Mitchell of Bromley Mindfulness and Michael Matania of the mental health charity ‘Mind’ will guide you through a journey to help you deepen your sense of connection to yourself and others. Spend a day in the company of likeminded people as we explore the nature of human connectivity in new and novel ways. Through a series of meditations and practical exercises designed to challenge and inspire you, this retreat is less about your questions answered, and more about your answers questioned.

What you will leave with

A toolkit of meditations to foster:

  • A deepened sensitivity to your body
  • Intimacy with your inner experience
  • A heightened awareness of your natural environment
  • A reduction in the barriers between you and others

A set of experiences which will deepen our connection to other people by:

  • Softening our resistance to vulnerability and authenticity
  • Experimenting with eye contact
  • Activating our deep listening skills
  • Improving our self-expression

Connecting with others

  • Meet other people who value Mindfulness & authentic connection:
  • Lay the foundations for exploring new deep and meaningful relationships
  • Find support among peers who are also seeking personal growth and transformation

The day retreat at the beginning of August was wonderfully uplifting and my mind was almost still for 3 days after!
(The inner chatter of my mind subsided markably)”

The full address is:
The Conference Centre, The Close, Addington Park, West Malling, Kent, ME19 5BL.


Connection Day Retreat – Pricing and Payment

Cost for the Day
Day session including a light lunch and refreshments – £65


Connection Day Retreat – Date and Times

Date and Times
Date: Sunday the 12th March.
Please arrive before 11am.
Lunch: 1pm
Finish at 4:30pm

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One Day Mindfulness Retreat January 2017

One Day Mindfulness Retreat

29th January, 2017
11.00am – 4.30pm
The Seeker’s Trust, West Malling, Kent, ME19 5BL

A day’s pampering for the mind

Join us for next year’s first One Day Mindfulness Retreat on 29th January, 11.00am – 4.30pm at The Seeker’s Trust, West Malling. Back by popular demand this day long session will see you benefiting from feeling more relaxed and less stress/anxiety, happier and empowered. You will also leave with tools and techniques you can practice and benefit from in your own time.

This intensive detox for the mind will leave you feeling refreshed, happier and more balanced.

The day retreat at the beginning of August was wonderfully uplifting and my mind was almost still for 3 days after!
(The inner chatter of my mind subsided markably)”

What will you leave with?
By attending this event you will benefit from five hours worth of carefully selected mood boosting, relaxation and stress management exercises, meditations, information and practical guidance.

Tailored to your goals
The day will start by each of us (anonymously if we wish) stating what we want to achieve from the day and in the long term. You may want to feel less stressed or anxious about something you are facing or faced with, for example.

This will inform us which exercises, practices and guidance given.

The day centres around four sessions focused on happiness, each containing techniques that are scientifically proven to increase long term happiness. These are:

  • Mindfulness
  • Gratitude
  • Compassion
  • Relaxation

There will be short introductory talks on each section followed by meditations, group and individual exercises. There will also be opportunities for group contributions from those that wish to do so.

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Includes lunch and Mindful walking (weather permitting)
The day also incorporates a  ‘Mindful’ walk within the The Seeker’s Trust’s  39 acres of grounds and gardens, a lunch (menu available on request) and a range of non-alcoholic hot and cold drinks throughout the day.

Location

The Mindfulness Day Retreat will be held at The Seekers Trust near West Malling in Kent.

The full address is:
The Meeting Centre, The Close, Addington Park, West Malling, Kent, ME19 5BL.


Mindfulness Day Retreat – Pricing and Payment

Cost for the Day
Day session including a light lunch and refreshments – £55


Mindfulness Day Retreat – Date and Times

Date and Times
Date: Sunday the 29th January.
Please arrive before 11am.
Lunch: 1pm
Finish at 4:30pm

Book your place now to avoid disappointment
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My solo retreat day seven

The first three days

I have done a few of these solo retreats now and the pattern remains pretty much the same. For the first three days, the mind appears to be very busy. What is actually happening is that the lack of external stimulus from the solitude makes what mental chatter that there is, appear noisier than back in the busy urban environment. I don’t think that the mind is any busier than normal, it just seems that way because there are no distractions

Thoughts

From the fourth day on, each day brings more calmness and peace of mind. Today was exceptional. I am relaxed, peaceful and calm. There is simply silence with the occasional thought flitting across my mind like a cloud across the sky. Whenever I feel my awareness being pulled away from the present moment, I can gently return to Presence.

Emotions

In addition to the thoughts, I notice the deeper undercurrents of emotions arising and subsiding. They’re all older ones at they moment, popping up to remind me of my life’s legacy. :) It’s incredible how deeply rooted some of these are. I don’t think I have ever done a retreat where I haven’t encountered some psychological material that I didn’t know was there. It’s worth it just for that.

A New Meditation

One of the first meditations that I teach new students is called ‘labeling the thoughts’. In this meditation, we attach a label to our thoughts when they arise during the meditation. The label is an abstraction and normally consists of a word that identifies our thoughts such as ‘judging’, ‘resenting’, ‘comparing’, etc.

We use the label as a prompt to return our attention to the breath. This meditation transfers neatly into a daily practice where when we become aware of an unhelpful thought pattern, we label it and return to the breath. This single practice has been life changing for some of my students.

There is a problem with labeling the thoughts however, which is this. If a student has particularly compelling thought patterns that can take them to dark places, the practice tends to unhelpfully reinforce that their minds are out of control. Because this is unhelpful for beginners, I have devised an alternative version. I call it labeling the quality of the thoughts.

In this meditation, the labels we use have less emotional significance, even if the mind is heavily compelled to heavy and dark thought patterns.

Labeling the quality of the thoughts

Focus your attention on your breath. Wait for a thought to arise. When a thought arises, label it depending on how persistent it is. I use these categories but you can obviously use your own: fleeting, wandering, persisting, repeating.

Fleeting thoughts are the momentary images and words that pop into our minds unbidden. We can notice these during long or deep meditations if we have a busy mind as a bubbling cauldron of thoughts, competing for our attention and some of which we become conscious of.

Wandering is, of course, mind wandering and we only notice it once our minds have made many associations and wandered, often far away, from the original thoughts.

Persistent thoughts are the thoughts that hang around in our heads and refuse to leave a bit like the music that often plays in a seemingly endless loop in our heads.

Repetitive thoughts are those thoughts that return to our mind over and over again no matter how many times we put them to bed.

For me this pretty much covers everything but feel free to use your own labels.

This practice offers a different way of observing our thoughts and using them as a prompt for Presence that the ‘monkey mind’ will find more difficult to use against us.

If you’d like some instruction in meditation practices come along to one of our drop-in classes or book onto a course. Take a look around the site to find what’s most useful to you.
Namaste,

Robert.

Four days back from my solo retreat

I thought I would give it a while before I added a new post to see what the effects of the retreat were a few days after returning.

I have felt, and continue to feel really calm. My mind is still and I am very lucid. My thoughts have really subsided and I find that I am able to bring mindfulness into some moments that I previously have found difficult.

I have effectively taken another step on my personal journey with the realisation that I need to practice humility. I have the content that I created while away to work on and I am looking forward to fleshing out the presentation and putting the framework in place for the course.

It is probably worth posting where I am at some point later on this month to see what the residual effects are then.

Namaste

Solo retreat 5th day

Today the mind is very quiet. I find myself bringing myself easily and smoothly into the present moment and lingering here rather blissfully.

I also took a bit of a back seat today on my work. I had to go into town in to pick up some supplies as I had underestimated what I needed. Next time I’ll fix a menu in advance and buy the ingredients.
One of the things I did today was to write down a list of achievements from this week.
I found that being totally alone like this is really brilliant for getting the contents of your brain down onto paper.
I was able to extract all of the details for a number of categories in such a way that I was able to formulate and plan based on the information.
I also did a lot of reading and made copious notes.
I think the most productive area was in intellectually demanding yet creative tasks such as planning a course and constructing a massive presentation.
I also struggled with the residue of urban life for consumer-producers which invariably consists of resentments and anxieties of some sort.

It seems to me, no matter how much time I spend uncovering and working with past resentments and so-on that there are always more. Speaking to other people who are experienced meditators, I’m not alone. It seems that the brain has infinite storage capacity for anything that it can possibly interpret as a threat.

Don’t think that I am particularly neurotic. I know beyond doubt that this sort of emotional burden (karma) is a characteristic of our entire consumer society. The difference with me is that after years of mindfulness and meditation I am both aware of it and can also, thankfully, release it.

My goal is to entirely divest myself of my negative karma one experience at a time. Whether I have enough time left on this planet to achieve this or not is the pivotal question :).

All I can say for sure though is that I am not adding to it!

I’ve started reading a book by Ram Dass called ‘Be Here Now’. One of the reviews on Amazon warned me that the book starts as a bit of a hippy bible encouraging us all to leave the workplace for the poppy fields and at this stage it certainly seems that way but I shall stick with it as some of Ram Dass’ teachings I have found are absolutely spot on.

Regarding what I blogged about yesterday, which is the fact that many mindfulness teachers don’t seem to confront the issue of emotions, there is an excellent quotation by Ram Dass which says “To him who has had the experience no explanation is necessary, to him who has not, none is possible.”

Discussing the journey of the mind with the uninitiated is literally, like speaking a different language. This is where the language of spirituality comes in and where we end up struggling. Science has no concept of things like connection with nature, the joy of life, transcendence and bliss so there aren’t the words. Hence, we all end up sounding like hippies whether we want to or not! :) My daughter says that much of what I say she simply puts in her ‘Dad’s hippy box’ category.

I suspect, that there are some mindfulness teachers that have had this experience and yet keep it to themselves for fear that it will blow their credibility with their academic or healthcare buddies.

Imagine coming into the University or the hospital in the morning to say “I spent several hours bathing in the bliss  resulting from releasing ancient fears.” Probably wouldn’t contribute to their next promotion eh?

So this is the last day and I shall be back in the urban jungle soonish.

I shall report back on how that works out.

Namaste Brother and Sisters! :)

Solo retreat 4th day

And so yesterday, the fourth day, I got down to the nitty-gritty of my retreat.

Most mindfulness teachers seem to either see mindfulness as a ‘spiritual practice’ on the path to Nirvana or as a ‘therapy’ they can add to their portfolio.

I am somewhat different, I came to mindfulness through stress. When I picked up the Power of Now in a bookshop in 2009, I was searching for something to help me deal with my stress.

Two revelations in that book transformed my weak Zen Buddhist meditation practices into a powerful tool that has helped me to transform my mind, and my life. This retreat is evidence that transformation is an ongoing process.

The revelations were simply that I am not my thoughts or my emotions and that the present moment is all there is. This helped me to become aware of my emotions, possibly for the first time, and most definitely for the first time as an observer.

This ability to observe emotions rather than experience them is a key element of mindfulness.

An analogy that I often use is that the mind is like a river. When the current is strong and the river level is high, it stirs up the bottom, becomes murky, creates waves and froth. The bottom of the river is hidden and so crossing it is dangerous.

Mindfulness clears the mind and creates a calm, still silence which enables us to observe and experience our thoughts and emotions. Mindfulness can become a safe space, one that, with practice, we can always find. This is the eventual goal of mindfulness meditation, to experience the mind safely, transform our minds and so, transform our lives, though not everybody either can or would want to experience this. One has to ‘be ready’. Nobody quite knows what ‘ready’ actually is, but you’ll know it when you’re there.

In the consumer society, meditating on emotions, thoughts and beliefs consists of becoming aware of our conditioning, questioning it and releasing the limiting beliefs, habits and emotions which unfortunately, is most of it.

From what I have seen, most mindfulness courses and mindfulness teachers don’t actually acknowledge this process. I think that this is largely because they haven’t been there themselves.

It’s not possible to speak about, for instance, the connection with nature, the joy of life and the bliss of releasing deep inner fears unless you have experienced it yourself.

Today, to repeat a commonly used expression, “all sorts of stuff came up”.

Of course, it is all good, but it really was a day spent with various tricky emotions such as resentment and grief.

Over the years I have used a number of techniques for managing this sort of psychological quagmire, but nowadays I just dive in and allow myself to feel it. I can almost invariably identify the cause and so either I allow myself to be aware of it and let it dissolve, or find a practice to resolve it.

My latest personal lesson is humility. And the practice I needed to find was how to practice it!

Here are the Dalai Lama’s teachings on humility:
http://www.dalailama.com/teachings/training-the-mind/verse-2
Recently, I have developed a great deal of respect for the Dalai Lama. I’m not a Buddhist simply because I don’t believe in reincarnation, but I will seek out wisdom wherever it can be found, and for the record, that’s often in the most unlikely places…

For some reason, probably because I simply didn’t understand, I used to think the Dalai Lama’s teachings were a western ‘media friendly’ version of Buddhism, but recently I’ve discovered the power in them. I had thought for instance, that compassion was an outcome, a side effect almost, of having found inner peace. Recently, I discovered compassion is something I need to actively practice. In the same way, I now know that I need to practice humility. I need to review my interactions and decide on who I should be compassionate or humble with, and then go out of my way to do it. 

I think if I can be compassionate to people that are resentful and humble with people that are arrogant, then I will have have found my way and rising to the bait will be a thing of the past.

To practice humility, I have now realised that I need to be mindful of how I have responded in the past and be prepared to defer to people not just when they’re wrong, but ‘especially’ when they are wrong, because after all, what is right and wrong except an idea we think is true that we hold in our heads? So why not just allow them to continue to believe whatever it is they want to believe?

Solo retreat 3rd day

Yesterday I spent more time meditating and my mind was a tad clearer.

Looking after the dogs ‘does’ have an effect and it is twofold. Firstly they tend to come over to play while I’m meditating, of course :), but there is also a sense of responsibility that maintains a link in my mind to their welfare and what thy are up to. It can be quite tenuous but it’s very real.

I spent the day focusing on doing ‘one thing at a time’ and found that I was very productive as a result. There was definitely a period of flow where I cracked through work that would normally take me ages.

The purpose wasn’t productivity, it was doing ‘one thing at a time’. The productivity was a side effect.

Overall invasive thoughts were mild and so I spent much of the day in a good mindful place.

Solo Retreat 2nd day

Yesterday was more of what I call meing and being where the focus of my attention moves between awareness and the inner narrative then back again over and over again.

Today will be a Zen day. My mind is relatively quiet and I’m confident that I can focus on my tasks and achieve my goals by retaining this focus.

Yesterday I cracked an elusive problem that I had been trying to solve, probably for some years now.

The silent stillness, inner and outer, enables a clarity of mind that has become such a rare event in my day-to-day life.

This morning, I am a lot closer to what Tolle refers to as the stillness. Yesterday my awareness opened up and I was able to appreciate nature a lot more.

The place that I am staying is thankfully surrounded by trees, some of which are aspens. They shimmer in the breeze quite magically and are a wonderful thing to focus on when meditating. Apparently aspens were associated with magical powers by the pre-Christian civilisations in Europe and I can quite understand why as the shimmering and rustling sound creates a quite wonderful experience.

This morning my mental experience is less of meing and being and more of mental stillness punctuated by the occasional thought.

Solo Retreat – first day

It seems that my first day on solo retreat is always one where my mind is very busy.
Each morning on retreat I get up, feed the dogs and take them for a walk. When I get back, this is the quietest time for me. Yesterday when I got back I sat to meditate and really struggled as the thoughts were intervening and my mind felt clouded.
Today by comparison, my mind is as clear as a mountain stream.
I brought some ting sha bells with me and I just sounded them three times. Sounds wonderful. It is such a good way to connect to the present moment.
It may sound absurd, but this is working retreat. By work, I mean those creative and innovative things that everybody needs to do, and yet in our crazy lives, there is never the time to do them.
Much of the work that I have to do is related to mindfulness in some way. Despite my mind being relatively busy yesterday, I was able to achieve quite a lot. I have high hopes for the productive output of this week.
I meditated a number of times over the day yesterday. When I had cleared my mind, I did notice a certain amount of emotional undercurrent.
I’m certain during the day today I will be able to work on these emotions and discover what message my subconscious has for me. :)

My Solo Retreat starts tomorrow!

I’m going to be staying alone in the Sussex countryside for seven days but I will have access to my iPhone which I shall limit to an hour per day online in the evenings. This means data will be off until the evening and the area has very poor reception so it’s also largely a digital detox with no mobile contact too. If I feel so moved, I may go completely offline, it remains to be seen.

The venue is a friends farm style house. The neighbours are hundreds of yards away. It’s a ten minute walk to the quiet village that doesn’t have a shop.

The road leads nowhere and there’s a car every 30 minutes or so. There are some lovely walks that I shall do directly from the house.

I will need to visit town once in the week to replenish my supplies. As I’m here from  the 15th to the 22nd, I will make that visit on the 19th so I shall have three full solitary days to start. This is because the last time I did something similar, my mind was unusually busy for the first two days and quieted down on the third so a visit to town will not intervene in this initial quieting process.

I am not technically totally alone as I shall be looking after two dogs but that won’t trigger many, or any, streams of thought above what would normally happen based on my last similar retreat of three days.

I am hoping to write a blog article daily to report on the experience and anything that I discover in the process.

Watch this space for further reports!

My recent short solo retreat and digital detox

I recently went on a bit of a solo retreat and digital detox in the Sussex countryside. One of this blog’s readers asked me to write an article on it so here it is.

I have spent quite a lot of time alone in the past although it has never been with such a clear intention of spending time meditating.

I expected, for some reason, to be able to meditate quite clearly and calmly from day one. Almost the opposite happened. My compulsive trains of thought seemed to go into overtime for the first two days. I wasn’t quite alone as there was a dog with me and of course, I found myself talking to the dog. This may seem daft to people that have not spent time alone with pets but for the rest of us it seems perfectly normal. It’s when they start talking back that it starts to become a problem.

I don’t think that the quality of the mental chatter was anything different to how it is normally. I think that the silence of the environment might just seem to make it appear more incessant and noisier.

It is interesting that it took me a couple of days to get to clarity of mind that I wanted. I didn’t spend all day alone. Every morning and evening I took the dog for a walk and in the process met some of the locals though my longest conversation all the time that I was alone there, was about 15 or 20 minutes chatting to a local farmer.

On the third day I achieved, at around mid-morning, the level of clarity of mind that I had hoped I would have from the start. This was an interesting and quite revelatory feeling of clarity. I found I was actually being extremely productive. I had brought some work with me, quite creative work, and rather hoped I would be able to complete it on my retreat. I completed what I expected to do. I also did a lot of reading. I read “The feeling of what happens” by Antonio Damasio. This was the second time that I had read it, but the quality of the information that I extracted this time was more useful and insightful.

From that point on, I felt very calm until the end of the retreat. I can understand why authors hide away alone to write.

As to my meditation experience, I don’t think I actually meditated for much longer than I do on a normal day, but the feeling of mindfulness most definitely extended throughout the entire day. I suppose that that’s simply because its other people that are likely to collapse a mindful state more than anything else and so with an absence of people I was able to stay mindful. In a way, I can see why Indian swamis go and sit in a cave for many years, though I have no intention of trying it myself!

I would say though that every meditation session after the first couple of days was successful. I wouldn’t say that my meditations were deeper, but there was no restlessness of any kind and my mind was relatively silent.

I will most definitely do some more solo retreats whenever possible. As to the digital detox, it’s a great way of resetting for the crazy day-to-day existence and reminds you that actually we don’t really need to be plugged in all the time.